‘Don’t be satisfied with stories, how things have gone with others. Unfold your own myth’ – Rumi
The tantric massage session takes place at my home in Huddersfield a discreet property with ample parking. The tantric massage will take in my peaceful therapy room which is clean, quiet and relaxing. There will be soft music and candle lighting the room with the room filled with a sensual aroma of blended essential oils on a burner.
Sessions are a minimum of two hours or longer and the fees and options can be found on my fees page which is linked here. (Fees and Options)
When you arrive for your tantric massage you will be greeted my myself. We will sit down and have a brief chat about the reasons you are here, your lifestyle that you wish to share with me and this is the opportunity to cover any medical issues that you feel I need to be aware of. I am happy to answer any questions and have a book to hand with my certificates, insurance and The Association of Somatic and Integrated Sexologists (ASIS) membership in which you are very welcome to take a browse through. I will give a brief history of myself and this is also when you will pay the outstanding balance for the tantric massage.
You will be offered an option of a shower and I will bring a towel and a sarong for you to change into after the shower. You will then move into my theapy room and we will sit together in a place of calm and relaxation, letting go of agenda and expectations. It is at this time that you will set an intention for the tantric massage and we will talk about your personal boundaries and I will cover my boundaries.
I will share some simple tantric breath work practices and mediation practices, or you may have your own. The breath work and mediation will guide you into a deeper sense of relaxation and allow you to receive more fully.
We will then move into the Tantric Massage.
You will then be invited disrobe so you are naked and lie face-down on the futon and take a few deep breaths to relax and call in your intention for the tantric massage. To start the tantic massage I start by massaging your back and entire body with natural almond oil, allowing you to relax into the touch and start to receive deeply. As I am trained in tantric energy work the focus of the massage is to open up the body to sensation and awareness allowing the energy to flow more freely through the body. This will include some subtle body energy and you will notice that I use my breath throughout the tantric massage. At some point I will invite you to turn over and I will continue the tantric massage with the front of your body.
A few words about Tantric Massage
Tantric massage is a deeply relaxing and honouring massage that will relax your body mind and soul. It is about awakening your body to a state of aliveness and deliciousness that you have not experienced before. This is why when people ask me to tell them about tantric massage I have no words as it is esoteric. To understand tantric massage is to experience it. I will guide you into a transformation process of transferring your sexual energy form your genitals to your whole body making your whole body orgasmic with delicious tantric energy.
Tantric massage is about the while body including the sexual organs, but it is not focused on the sexual organs. Tantric massage allows the wonderful feeling of bliss and arousal to flow through your whole body. Tantric massage does not have to include touch o your sexual organs and can be done with no genital touch. You have a choice as to receive genital touch or not.
Lingham massage the Sanskrit word for the male sexual organ which means losly wand of light. In tantra the lingham is honoured and treated with respectfully as the lingham channels the lifeforce energy, creative energy and pleasure. Orgasm is not the goal of lingham massage with the focus shifting to pleasure. The art of lingham massage, including testicles , perineum and sometimes with prior agreement prostate massage is to fully receive without expectation of orgasm. The focus is to experience the deliciousness of expanded pleasure in your body and the invitation is to surrender to a new form of pleasure you may not be accustomed to. During the tantric massage you are invited to relax and let go of the traditional sexual conditioning of doing and being goal orientated as you move into a new role of allowing yourself to fully receive the gift of pleasure.
Tantric massage and ejaculation. Ejaculation is not the focus of any authentic tantric practice and traditional tantra teaches the art of moving to non-ejaculation and conserving life force energy. However, I fully recognise and understand that we are bringing ancient practices to the modern world and asking for you not to ejaculation is in some cases unrealistic. Ejaculations is after all a natural and human function so if you do ejaculate then this is welcomed and not shamed. If you feel the energy of ejaculation building up the more, you breathe the more that will help move the energy though your body but if we are getting close just feel free to lift your hand to let me know. If ejaculation does occur, then this is also perfect.
A tantric massage session is for you and is about learning the gift of fully receiving without the need to give. It is the time for you to feel worshiped and adored and is totally one way touch from me to you. If you do start to feel the need to give, I will invite you to notice this but take no action n it which in itself can be profound. It is very powerful to give yourself permission to fully receive, let go of control and surrender into receiving.
During the tantric massage you only need to receive and breathe being fully in the present moment. I will introduce some tantric breathing techniques and visualisations to help you expand into the experience more
Eye contact is welcomed as this is a great way to be in presence with yourself and another without getting lost in your head.
Throughout the tantric massage I will be just in my panties or naked if I feel comfortable enough to be so.
To complete the massage I will leave you for 5 to 10 minutes to lie quietly to integrate the experience. When I return you will have a little time to ask any questions and discus the next steps. You will be offered a shower before you leave.
Some potential benefits of regular tantric massage are; an increase in libido, learning to control and feel more sexual energy in tour body, becoming more centred and aware of yourself, learning the art of presence with yourself and presence with others, increased intensity of orgasms, moving to a place of choice in ejaculation and learning multiple orgasm techniques, developing deeper connection ad intimacy with yourself and with your lovers/s and may other benefits that could be mentioned but I am happy to discuss during our session together.
Tantric massage has the potential to be a life changing experience and often is a catalyst for movement into a more fulfilled and conscious way of being. Each tantric massage session is different as we will be moving and following where the energy is in any one moment which means there is no set agenda for the tantric massage like you see in remedial massages
If you would like to book a tantric massage and experience for yourself the esoteric magic that tantric massage offers then please do get in touch my contact details are here. (Contact Details)
I am available 10am – 10pm weekdays and advance booking is recommended as I do get booked up quickly. From 1stNovember 2020 I am changing my working hours so some weekend sessions will be available after then. If you woud like my advance booking availability just drop me a line and I will happily send it for you.
Any questions please do feel free to get in touch by sending an email or booking a discovery call.
Before you come to your tantric massage session
Please refrain from smoking, eating a spicy or heavy meal, taking drugs or drinking alcohol.
I will not invite anyone under the influence of drugs or alcohol into my personal or therapy space.
A polite reminder that tantric massage is a one way touch from me to you and you will remain in full receiving mode, accepting the gift of receiving. As we are working with the sexual energy it is normal for strong urges to come up. You are invited to notice these feelings without taking action on them. As part of receiving a tantric massage there will no two way touch, kissing, oral sex or sexual intercourse during a session. I also do not take any requests to dress in a certain way. My dress usually consists of a dress to welcome you in and the I change into a sarong while we talk in my therapy room.
It is very powerful just to receive, let go and surrender to what is. Please do not push boundaries and spoil the session by being dishonourable as I will terminate any sessions where I do feel you are not receiving the full benefit of conscious receiving.
I work from home in a specifically set up temple space which is private, homely, warm, inviting and comfortable.
Depending on the session there is either a futon mattress on the floor for Tantric massage and floor work or a massage table for Sexological body work sessions, Lomi Lomi massage, erotic massage and Bondage Massage. I have shower facilities and you are welcome to take a shower afterwards and every session is followed by herbal tea and snack.